“People may not believe what you say, but they will always believe what you do.”
Sunday, November 22nd, 2009
We’ve all heard this statement before and we all can relate. How many times has a friend or loved one promised to be there for you and they bailed; or how many times did your son promise to take out the trash, only to forget. The fact is that we all know that a person worth trusting backs their words with actions. We all long for someone like this in our lives. We expect this of others, but why do we not expect the same of ourselves? We tell ourselves we will stay within the budget this week, but we fall short. We plan to manage time more efficiently, but pleasure gets in the way of work; or maybe work overrides family. Or think back to December 31,2008, what resolutions did you make? Will this year’s resolution be to lose the same 20 pounds that you vowed to lose last year, or even for the last decade.
Are you starting to get the point? The continual cycle of saying one thing, but doing another is self- destructive. Eventually empty promises cause us to stop believing the words that come out of our own mouths. Ultimately, we lose faith in ourselves. Without self-confidence, we can never reach our full potential. If you are at this point it is not too late to start trusting in yourself again. Trust is built one step at a time. Here are a few simple tasks that will help you to develop self-trust. Be sure to hold yourself accountable as you would a friend.
1. Write a detailed schedule and to-do list for today. Check off each task as it is completed.
2. Schedule to complete a task that you would normally postpone, at an earlier time. For example, wash the dishes before you lay on the couch tonight!
3.Schedule a time this week to work on a project that you have put off for the past few weeks.
- If it is clearing the clutter, schedule 15 minutes of each day this week to clean one cabinet or shelf. Do as much as you can in 15 minutes.
- Need to finish painting the bedroom? Plan it on the weekend. Make sure you play your music to make the time more enjoyable.
- Still haven’t finished your daughter’s scrapbook? Host a scrapbook party. You will be sure to do it then.
4. Schedule 20 minutes of exercise six days this week.
- Exercise will give you more energy and releases endorphins that cause you to feel more confident. When you feel better about yourself, you can accomplish more for yourself. Plus, exercise hepls build discipline. It takes discipline to physically push your body through fatigue.
5. Journal.
In addition to your schedule and to-do list, journaling keeps you accountable. It helps hold you to your every word and allows you to see your triumphs and shortcomings.
Brandy Golden
